Speaking Frankly About Sex

Sex is everywhere. You can’t drive down the highway, turn on a TV, watch a movie, get on the internet or open a magazine without sex being displayed in all it’s superficial glory.  Our children are indoctrinated into what the world touts as acceptable sex from a very early age.  What’s so wrong about all this?  Sex is a natural part of life, it is necessary for life to continue and “everyone” knows it’s just a natural instinct such as eating or breathing, therefore we can’t “control” it when those urges grip us and we need to satisfy those urges any way we can.  We are in a sexual free fall in this world. Everything is permitted, nothing is sinful or immoral when it comes to satisfying our sexual desires.

Let’s be honest about this, sex as described by God’s Word is not what the world wants us to think it is. It’s not a recreation to be indulged in at every whim, nor is it the “next step” in a relationship outside of marriage.  The Bible is very plain that sex is to be enjoyed by a man and woman within the confines of the marriage covenant. 

 ^“So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.’  That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” – Genesis 2: 20-24

A woman was made by God to be a helper, mate, sex partner for her husband.  That is what becoming one flesh means.  They become one in body.  A man is not totally complete until he has found his mate. This was God’s design from the beginning and it is still true today.  Without this joining of a man and woman, the human race would cease to exist. 

In I Corinthians, chapter 6 & 7, the apostle Paul goes into great detail about marriage and sex. Since I don’t wish to make this post long and tedious, I will just highlight a few verses here:

“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.” – I Cor 6:18

“…each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.” -  I Cor 7:2-4 (emphasis mine)

“Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.”– I Cor 7:8-9 (When you read the context, Paul is telling them to stay unmarried during the present situation. The Christians were being persecuted and many were being put the death.)

Can that be any more plain or simple to understand? If there were no other verses in the Bible (and there are many) that said these same things, it would not negate what these verses tell us about God’s desire for a man and woman where sex is concerned.  Sex is reserved for a man and his wife.  All other sex is immoral and condemned by God…PERIOD

“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” – Hebrews 13:4

Can we control ourselves and not commit sexual sin?  Paul told the Thessalonians they can:

“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God” – I Thessalonians 4:3-5

If we couldn’t control ourselves, then the Holy Spirit wouldn’t have had Paul pen that.  Yes we can control ourselves, it is called self-discipline.  The world can see the need for self-discipline in all other aspects of our lives, but refuses to see it when it comes to sex. Why is that? I would suggest it is because it’s one of the greatest lies that Satan uses to draw us away from God.   

We need to be teaching this to our children from an early age (even before they begin puberty).  The world will keep aggressively pushing whatever seems acceptable, so we need to keep talking, teaching and reinforcing, what is God’s will.  As the meme that floats around on Facebook all the time says.  “If we don’t teach our children God’s Word, then who will?”  Worldly opinion certainly won’t!